Tired and sleepy

Neighbors yard off Longfellow.

 Adorable young boy there said 

he and his mom do dog sitting; 

good to know,I said

 

 Adjusting to the time change is difficult, and I feel it today. S is feeling OK today; she had another infusion today. God bless her  Hope  L is adjusting to her new normal. Emailed MM about her son in military and how proud she must be of him; of course I know she was being shamed with denial and rationalization larded on.    

   We saw lots of neighbors today and enjoyed chatting with  Webinar went well a little strange, very stubborn reading:  A monk named Ignatius and Mont Saint Michel. Set up appointment to see Plumber tomorrow for new upstairs toilet and also meals on wheels lady after my hair on Thursday  Getting busy I guess. Weather temperature will be nice tomorrow too and was today. No more Werthers. That’s a good thing, don’t buy anymore!  I have gained back 5 lbs! 

    Is election night and it’s a blue flood unfortunately

Time change

5:35 am 

Fall back, spring ahead. A day out of this years DST so clock says 5:30. But Saturday this wad 6:30. Well I’m awake anyway for the past two hours. Mostly fretting about falling yesterday, on top of the crashes and near misses of this year. Hard to fill the joy of life. At least at this hour in the morning. 

The day after

 

H and P, two of my faves

JS costumed as a banana and we couldn’t see him at all. Thank goodness his parents were there and they were pretty cute too in one piece duck and manga costumes  F came as a little witch and her mom as the grown-up witch, T was with them in his T-shirt. Pretty dog Paris came as a ballerina  Only 11 Trick-or-treaters!  So few!  Also saw C and K And a cousin coming home From wherever they went door-to-door. I like those kids very much. A couple of the African kids were afraid of Red and wouldn’t come to the door of the 6 presumably from Greenfield. I loved the smiling faces of the ones who were actually friendly  it must be a new experience and kind of scary for them knocking on white people’s doors, even if candy is the reward. Two girls in particular, I would love to meet and talk to again. I know C and I were passing out candy and our wonderful Asian neighbors had their lights going full on so they must’ve been passing out candy, but I’m not sure how many other people were  So it’s harder for kids to do this neighborhood these days I’m guessing

More later; it IS Halloween

 Treats:

We’re ready 

So is Red

Roll him over 

Here’s a nasty trick. 

L is in jail for 20 days for unpaid child support of $6000, despite  the facts that she’s wheelchair bound and hasn’t worked in at least a decade. Never understood why she was ordered to pay child support anyway  I think this is her vengeful ex husband and his mother refusing to let go of a prosecution that should’ve ended years ago since their sons are both in their 20s and would not see a dime if the money was paid. 

I sent an email to JD Vance about the story, and it made me feel a bit better. Insult to injury, though: C says segregated from other inmates and no TV or books because of her wheelchair. I don’t know whether the time in jail will end the prosecution/persecution or whether they’ll keep coming after her for the money or more jail time in the future  Certainly unjust.

   C said this jail time will complete her debt. If so, she is earning $300 a day just staying there. Maybe psychological suffering, but logical way to pay off the debt since only the evil MIL would get the 6K if it were paid

Halloween was fun, but we only got 10 kids. That’s a lot of leftover candy and pretzels!

Wha-a-at

Yesterday s walk

Never know what will come down th road next. Nearly got tboned again today going through the intersection of the post office. 

 Ordered shoes for S, like she needs them. RDA called.  Wrote list of teaching difficult vhildren tips for K. Hope she gets help

So many sunny days

Home field this morning 

How DO I see conscious labor and intentional suffering play out in my life each day?  SF connects it to three centered being and self remembering, and he is not wrong, but in the application, that feels like applying the rules, making it an intellectual, self control process. That does not feel quite right to me these days. OK to get one started on the path. BP says coming to our web explorations for all these years is surely a conscious labor, and she is totally right. F says my willingness to expose myself, to embarrass myself and reveal my ignorance, paraphrasing, are admirable. But it’s not that or quite any of these things. I said it felt like an epiphany, reading BT p350

“But during the last two centuries this word has come to be used there now in two senses:

“In one sense it is used for the same purpose as before, that is to say, those beings there are so named who became initiates thanks to their personal conscious labors and intentional suffer-

ings; and thereby, as I have already told you, they acquire in themselves objective merits which can be sensed by other beings irrespective of brain-system, and which also evoke in others trust

and respect.”

It occurred to me that we acquire objective merits more through our own experience than through reading and repeating the wisdom of other acknowledged initiates. So I should be looking throughout my day to see how parktdolg duty plays out, more than reading more about GIG.  

It’s already noon, for example; Is playing with my dog because he’s asking me to an example of love 

and conscious labor, especially when I don’t particularly want to interrupt my intellectual/spiritual pursuit du jour?  And, is pretty much constant awareness and prayer for a daughter who resents me not intentional suffering?  Yet I need to look beyond those two constants—obsessions?  habits?—at my interactions with husband, neighbors, the neighborhood, and with God, don’t I? Possibly self, body, too. 

….,.,.,

Gwynne Mayer says in her Personality and Essence Substack of  10-27:

“Relationships reveal this division with unusual clarity. I often believe I am meeting another person directly, yet I may actually be bringing my expectations, fears, roles, and old grievances into the encounter. The other person does the same. Two personalities then negotiate, compete, withdraw, flatter, defend, and keep score, while genuine contact remains rare.””

Nicoll’s contrast between internal and external considering is especially practical here. Internal considering means being absorbed in how I am treated: whether I am sufficiently appreciated, understood, or respected. I replay a tone of voice, count what I have given, and build a case for why the other person is wrong. The more I rehearse the grievance, the more solid and justified it feels.

External considering asks something different. It does not mean surrendering judgment, tolerating harm, or pretending that every behavior is acceptable. It means trying to see the other person as they actually are, including their limitations, fears, and mechanical habits, rather than seeing only the injury to my self-image. It asks me to respond to reality instead of to the drama created by wounded vanity.”

Ain’t it the truth!

Last minute

 

Gladstone’s colors yesterda

Not a good day til webinar. Constipation, laxatives  hemorrhoids, small fissures, pain 26 hours. Poor Red. Not much attention except tossing to tubes. Feeling better tonight. Except anguish for S. Haven’t heard her voice since  “three little pigs”

JG took A grocery shopping after his four filling!! dental visit. What a good person he is. 

What next? Shadow time

 

Last night

Running out of time

 

Dog park trail today. Stinky!

Busy enough today. Stayed home. Read.  Good webinar though late due to Euro time zone changes. I was late too, fell asleep til 1:10. But as said postponed meeting til  2:00.  Worked on something I effectively; walked Red in dog park. Eating too much all day more later

Blow or glow?

 

Almost Halloween

Burned the beans. Cornbread hood. Dinner turned out ok

Thanks for food, Lord. And good weather. And sisters and neighbors And A

  Patrice said on web people just want to blow. Or was it glow?  In regard to computer age/ devices 

Phoned S to 10:40 to say goodnight. (and make sure she’s alive). How was your day?  “I had a pretty good day. “I just didn’t want to talk to the three little pigs. Take a day off.” OK. Click.  

Lord have mercy. 

I was whining. A said behavior counts.